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5號 Sarah 分享:
我以“追尋者”(Seeker)形容自己。若你讀過一本名為“The Seekers – The Story of Man’s Continuing Quest to Understand His World”的書，應更能明白“追尋者”所指。
5 號仔給您提升自己的建議 :
我偶然會作康樂組組長 (Chief Entertainment Officer，CEO)，召集同事朋友們各式以吃喝玩樂為主的活動。雖然覺著“很煩”，但可伸展社交的神經。
5號 Andrew 分享:
I am a geek.
The severe form of a geek is one with autism, who lives in their own world.
My idol is Mr. Spock, the Vulcan with pointed ears who appeared in the original “Star Trek” series.
In the planet Vulcan, everyone learns to suppress his own emotion. They have overdeveloped logical way of thinking. As a result, the scientific development is way more advanced than that of the Earthies.
The planet Vulcan may be the heaven for number 5, but the hell for the rest of you.
If you are a Star Trek geek like me, you should have known that Mr. Spock is only half Vulcan. Therefore, the emotion inherited from his human mother sometimes gets in the way of his pure logical thought.
4 reasons why a number 5 should be your best friend:
I am not needy. I am not eager to use up your time to have heart-to-heart talk. If you are one of my close friends, you will get a Christmas card from me once a year to notify you I still exist.
I can keep secret. I don’t have a lot of friends. So I don’t have a lot of people to tell about your secret. Number 5 likes to “compartmentalize” his life. i.e. People in one part of my life (e.g. work) will never know people in another part of my life (e.g. I am a member of Enneagram Action). In fact, some of my closest friends have never met one another.
I don’t have a lot of friends. I don’t have a very active social life. If you want to see me, likely I am available.
I don’t judge. I can be an analyst, a scholar, or whatever, but never be a judge. I guard my privacy really well and firmly believe that people are entitled to live their own way. Being a number 5 is somehow an outcast. I don’t fit in a crowd very well. So if you are antisocial in any way, it is totally cool for me.
(Next up: Why a number 5 could be a good boyfriend….)
5 號仔大平反 :
Don’t be fooled by the aloofness and the detachment attitude of number 5.
It is a kind of defense mechanism. Number 5 have difficulty to engage in a small talk. I usually don’t watch soap opera and hardly know the news from celebrities. It is hard to find common topics to talk. I know a guy who knows all bird species in Macau. One of my best friends vowed to end her miserable life had her nephew described one more dolphin species to her in detail. Do you want me to bore you to death by telling you what I’ve been studying?
By minimizing the chance of contact, I don’t risk getting into an awkward situation in running out of things to talk about.
However, just because I don’t have lively facial expression or I maintain a low profile in a group does not mean I don’t have passion or I care about nobody.
Have you seen the movie “a beautiful mind”? Do you find John Nash (played by Russell Crowne) sexy when he wrote equations on his window? His mind is totally immersed in his math. His hand danced on the glass window. His eye moved as rapid as his hand and he was in a state of ecstasy. I can imagine this scene in Vulcan courtship:
Vulcan man: Would you please marry me?
Vulcan woman: Only if you can write a kickass equation.
Vulcan man wrote a very long equation on the backboard.
Vulcan woman: Awesome! The marriage proposal is accepted.
Vulcan man: I have just reached an orgasm. Marriage does not seem to be necessary.
Sorry, where were we? Right. I just try to say number 5 is passionate in things they care most.
I may take a longer time to warm up a relationship. I do care about people I love.
Among three siblings of my family, guess who go to “drink tea” with my grandma most often?
5 號仔給您提升自己的建議 :
An armchair critic does not make the world a better place. So I have to get my butt off the couch and go change the world.
Find a point that Vulcan and Earthies can meet.
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